This Sunday we will experience a Blue Moon in the constellation of Sagittarius. A blue moon is a rare second full moon in a month and provides even greater opportunity for us to shed our old habits and assumptions, opening ourselves up to new adventures and opportunities.

This week a treasured member of our community and a dear friend, Raetta Holdman, passed away. I am grateful to have visited with her several times in her last weeks sharing healing energy, laughter, and stories, as well as telling her how much she was loved and appreciated the day before she died.

This Saturday is a New Moon in Taurus that opens a dozen days of transformative energy. It is an opportunity to listen to our intuition and pay attention to the information being presented to guide us into the next steps on our journey. It is a time to take action on those ideas, big and small, that have been percolating in the back of our minds, to release the weight of burdens and expectations that no longer serve us, and to declutter our spaces to create room for growth. There is often a sense of struggle in these opportunities for growth. However, if we can shift our perspective to see them as openings to do things differently, we may be rewarded far beyond our expectations.

This weekend we honor the beautiful women in our lives who have mothered us. For some this may be our biological mothers, for others it may be stepmothers, aunts, grandmothers, colleagues, neighbors, friends and even ourselves. For many Mother’s Day brings grief as well as joy. As we honor the mothering energy in our lives, may we also hold space for the grief, disappointment, and anger that may also be present. Holding all of our experiences with equanimity allows us to honor our whole selves and the full humanity of our mothers as well.

When the world is overwhelming, rather than pushing through sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to float. Letting ourselves rest in the buoyant support of our communities, knowing we are held with love and kindness. Slowing down and tuning into our breath we can feel its ebb and flow nourishing and cleansing our bodies like the waves of the ocean. Pause, breath, rest.

I have been enjoying the one minute dance party videos of Khadaura on Instagram that offer silliness, joy, and dancing as a way to release stress and be present in the moment. Dancing with abandon and letting go of expectations and judgements of ourselves is a simple gift we can give ourselves. Often we go through the motions of “appropriate behavior” due to the many layers of shoulds and should nots we have absorbed in our lives and forget that we can choose to do something different, to be different, and to listen to our own authentic voice. Dancing can offer us a sense of freedom and joy that transcends the responsibilities and realities of life.

The events of this week have me thinking about courage. The courage to stand up and speak out for what is right, to stretch our comfort zones, and to take risks. Each small act of courage we take supports us in taking the bigger steps when they arise. It is my fervent hope that the leaders of our country will have the courage to stop the many types of destruction being perpetrated by this administration. Calling and emailing them is one way we can each demonstrate our own courage and encourage them to act. I implore each of us to be courageous in the ways we are able to do the good in front of us and support others in their own courageous choices.

This week the concept of balance came up repeatedly in conversations and was even a focus of Wednesday’s Full Moon in Libra. We often think of balance as a singular point, but in truth it is a fluid space. When we hold a single leg pose such as tree or eagle, our bodies are making constant small adjustments to keep us balanced. The same goes with the responsibilities of our daily lives. Finding our personal balance is an active choice we make over and over whether through our physical posture, the tasks we take on or let go of, or time we spend doing or being. Saying yes to the people and experiences that bring us joy and no the those that drain us is a great place to start. What do you want to say yes to today?

Today I am reflecting on the small joys and gratitudes that bring our lives beauty and meaning even in the midst of difficulty. Connections with strangers, visits with dear friends, generosity of family, blooms of spring flowers, the warmth of the sun on our skin, and the fact that we are alive another day. So much of our lives is spent in default mode, just going through the motions day after day. Pausing to appreciate all that is can help balance the perspective we see and hear in the news. While our brains are wired to look for danger, practicing looking for the good, the kind, and the generous can bring a sense of ease in all the turmoil of the world.

My heart is heavy again this week with the onslaught of violence by our government extending its reach across the globe. Holding onto our humanity and compassion during these times is an essential act of resistance. It can be easy to get sucked into retaliating by dehumanizing those who are perpetrating the violence, but then we become complicit in their story. Sending lovingkindness into the world creates a shift in energy. If we all take a few moments each day to do so, we can start the ripples of peace that will eventually become waves. I invite you to practice with these or your own lovingkindness phrases.

I experienced a bit of a set back last weekend when I broke my ankle walking down the sidewalk, go figure! It was a truly bizarre and freak accident that seems unbelievable. As I reflect on the experience I am incredibly grateful for my family in getting me to medical care, the privilege of having access to that care and to health insurance, and that I am able to rest and heal without worrying about working at this phase of my life. It is also a reminder that we must continue to fight for everyone to have access to quality medical care, not just those of us privileged enough to be able to afford it.

I learned this week that while Tuesday heralded the beginning of the Year of the Fire Horse in the Chinese Zodiac, Wednesday ushered in the Year of the Deer in the Mayan Sacred Calendar. While both represent similar energy - “freedom, movement, and authentic power,” Fire Horse energy is yang, while Deer energy is yin. The two energies can help bring balance to the transformational energy of this year. The Deer reminds us to start with stillness, observation, and mindfulness, while the Fire Horse spurs us to take action. Both are essential as we traverse these challenging times, reminding us to pause, watch, and listen and then act with integrity and intention. You can read this article from Elephant Journal for a deeper understanding.

I had the luxury last week of spending time on the beach with my dear cousin as well as some old and new friends. I was reminded again of the importance of community and truly being seen by others. We so often feel we have to prove something or show ourselves as useful or competent to be of value. The time I spent with those wonderful women reconfirmed that just by being we are enough. Our presence can bring solace, joy, comfort, peace, laughter, insight and so much more. May it remind us all to honor ourselves just as we are in this moment and to extend that acceptance to those around us. This doesn’t condone ill treatment, abuse, or violence, it means we honor each other as human beings first, then set boundaries and take action second.

I’ve been working on a presentation for a high school class about being a social worker and learning to care for ourselves as mental health providers. In the process I have stumbled upon some unexpected pearls of wisdom. One is that the times when things have been hardest for me in life were when I believed I had to do everything on my own, that I had no one else to shelter and support me. What I have learned is that the power of someone else sharing our burdens is indescribable. We do not need someone to fix, rescue, or save us. Instead, we need trusted people to love, support, guide, hold space, advocate, provide resources, and to be present for us. So often we believe we cannot ask for help, but “it is in the shelter of each other that people live.” Across the country we are witnessing neighbors and strangers sheltering each other, protecting each other, advocating for each other. While there continues to be pain, sorrow, and darkness, the light of these neighbors and strangers can bring us hope and remind us we are not alone.

Today marks the end of the 10 darkest weeks of the year and next weekend marks the halfway point between the winter solstice and the spring equinox. Reflecting on this and the impact of light of various kinds in our lives I was reminded of the MLK quote,

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

The amazing Sharon Salzburg has been popping up on my social media feeds a great deal this week and reminding me of her wisdom. Her book Lovingkindness was transformative in developing my personal practice of self-compassion and integrating the language of lovingkindness in to my teaching and everyday life. This practice has been a foundation for me to heal childhood wounds, build and mend relationships, set clear boundaries, and honor my own worth and needs. Additionally, it has led to a greater sense of connection with all beings in my community and around the world.

Happy New Year to all!

As we begin the journey of a new calendar year, there is usually an expectation to resolve to better or change ourselves. However, I believe we are all enough just as we are and that any resolutions we make should relate to honoring all of ourselves and of each other, awakening to light of our true compassionate natures. As I read this Jack Kornfield quote today,

When you hold the whole world in your heart, the phrase is ‘omitting none.’

These last few days of the year can often feel aimless and untethered. They are a wonderful opportunity for us to return to mindfulness practices in daily life to increase our sense of groundedness and presence in the moment. Engaging our senses in our daily activities is an easily accessible way to practice. Some ideas for practicing are noticing the scent of our soap or shampoo, tuning into the sensations of water running over our skin when washing or the texture of clothing, furniture, or bedding, savoring the first sip or taste of a beverage or bite of food, allowing our gaze to rest on an object or image and observe without needing to label or understand, or pausing to listen to the sounds around us. Try out some of these ideas or others you think of a few times a day, take a few deep breaths as you practice, and notice how the practice impacts you.

This week many of our friends and neighbors are celebrating Hanukkah and its celebration of light amidst the darkness. They are doing so with heavy hearts as we continue to face and process violence on many fronts both at home and abroad. Through our words and actions we can contribute to peace and community building or we can contribute to hatred and violence. We each make choices every day to build the world we want to live in. I encourage you to be the light of kindness, understanding, acceptance, and joy, to honor and value every life, and to do the good in front of you each moment of each day. Let us close out this year as we mean to begin the next.